I don’t make new year resolutions anymore for one simple reason: I never, ever follow through on them. I think it’s because we put sooo much pressure on making it happen. So if my resolution happens to be something that’s especially important to me, I don’t want to subject it to that, you know. And if it really is that imp0rtant to me shouldn’t I do it anyway, with or without a new year thingie?
The reason we all usually make these resolutions is that new year’s eve is supposed to be like this huuuuuuuuge reset button. We decide to start over. It’s a new year and we act like it’s a new us, like just because the year is changing so are we. But what if we aren’t doing anything differently? Do we think that at the stroke of midnight someone’s going to wave this spectacular magic wand which will somehow give us the ability to have what our random thoughts have dictated? Well, you know what? In many ways, I haven’t changed, and if you haven’t changed either nothing else is going to change and we’re right where we were this year.
I guess what I’m trying to say is if we want things to change an effort has to be made. And it begins with us. Maybe we need to be kinder. Maybe we need to let go. Maybe we need to actually make changes, not just assume them. And it doesn’t just have to be on the first day of the new year. It can be any day, or every day.
I do want to be a better person. I want to love myself so I can love others. I want to be happy. But that isn’t a one-time new year resolution, it’s a work in progress, and it’s a daily thing.