I was thinking about how a lot of us are obssessed with love and finding it when I remembered an episode of ‘Sex and the City’ where Carrie Bradshaw wonders why it seems like one plus one equals everything and two minus one equals nothing. Why do we focus on finding someone who will complete us? Isn’t something wrong if we’re incomplete by ourselves? Sure, we want someone we can share our life with, someone who will celebrate our successes and understand our failures, someone who recognises the emotion in your eyes and not just your face. But does it mean that we should feel unfulfilled without the presence of such a person in our lives?
Sometimes I think what we’re searching for depends on what we have already experienced. We have memories of what made us feel good, special, loved and we want to experience that again. That is what we end up hunting for and, at the same time, close ourselves off to something that may be even better. I think that is why it is so important to move on from one relationship before getting into another. Maybe otherwise we set unrealistic expectations by wanting what we used to have and fail to notice the great qualities of the person in front of us and what they may be offering us. Gosh, what do we let ourselves miss out on? We don’t even know it.
A lady once told me (if you’ve read older posts on this blog, you know whom I’m talking about) that she believed that there was someone out there for everyone. I cannot disagree with her theory completely. She said that you just have to be very lucky. Lucky enough to live at the same time, in the same place and meet. “If you have to cross seas to meet him,” she said, “do it. Your life will be worth it.”